MANY have been asking what happened to Bright and Beautiful... Today while visiting Hidden in France... the ANSWER was found via a posting by Felicity herself...
Dear Corine and friends,
I send you hugs and I send you smiles - I write this with little tears in my eyes - tears that I have made you sad and sadness that ATBAB is no more that I cannot bring sunshine to your days as I used to.
Why delete a blog and tell no one?
Because if I had - I would have not had the courage to go ahead - my sadness and your sadness and collective voices would have stopped me.
Sometimes when we ponder a thing for a long time and the circumstance finally arrives in a sliver of a window of opportunity - the impetus is so strong that you know if you don't do it now you just wont do it.
And so I jumped in and took it.
And I took down my email as I couldn't face the magnitude of taking down a blog that I had worked on for the year and also the collective sadness it could possibly bring.
Some thoughts and reasons......
Blogging is addictive - sometimes you cant just stop and leave it there - because you just cant help but come back to it - ayah!! I'm an all or nothing girl - unfortunately
The whole copyright thing was weighing heavily on me.
I struggled with bringing beauty all the time when there is so much suffering.
My back was killing me!! :-)
Initially I started blogging because I wanted to share the beautiful things I found - then it became about community then finding original material and then technorati ratings and reader numbers and ayah - it all got skewed.
Getting new material means you've always got the blog in the back of your mind - be it when you're on the bus, reading the paper or talking with friends... for me it got a bit ridiculous seriously !! when your 3 year old sees you on the computer and goes MUMMY STOP BLOGGING you know there's something a bit awry.
Also I personally wouldn't want my children to spend the amount of time on the computer that I was spending - so I didn't want to give them that as an example for life.
I think I've seen more nudity/obscenity in the past 12 months than I have in my entire life times 10 from trawling through photographers sites and my heart doesn't want to see any more.....
Opening up yourself on the internet also opens you up for fair game to whoever is out there, no matter what your intentions.
When you spend enough time on something you end up becoming it, and it is not what I want to become.
My cherubs are all the more happier for it. And in the strangest of ways it is amazingly liberating - not that I'm advocating a mass blog deletion!:-) :-) :-). Just wanted to let you know what its like from "the other side"
Its not that I have left you I am still here - just not up front bamboozling you with techni - colours and spelling mistakes:-)
Hugs and love and I'm still here - just recovering from the "loss" - in a good and bad way and working on my photography and printing up a family album with iphoto :-), working on the family blog, pondering the effects of the stock market fallout & wondering what the future will hold, taking my boy out for adventures, reconnecting with God, loving DY Blog consultant extrordinaire ( who I didn't tell for 2 days about the blog deletion bit as he'd bemoan the hours wasted! :-) and trying to get my back back into working order!!
I'll leave the mystery as to who I am as a mystery:-)
PS - hugs especially to you Corine and LOVE THE accompanying images :-) :-) :-) Fear not - I'll be back visiting - I'm still nursing those twinlettes - yes still!! :-)
Hugs bug and take care
Love Felicity XOX
Posted by: all things bright and beautiful October 01, 2008 at 05:15 AM
I send you hugs and I send you smiles - I write this with little tears in my eyes - tears that I have made you sad and sadness that ATBAB is no more that I cannot bring sunshine to your days as I used to.
Why delete a blog and tell no one?
Because if I had - I would have not had the courage to go ahead - my sadness and your sadness and collective voices would have stopped me.
Sometimes when we ponder a thing for a long time and the circumstance finally arrives in a sliver of a window of opportunity - the impetus is so strong that you know if you don't do it now you just wont do it.
And so I jumped in and took it.
And I took down my email as I couldn't face the magnitude of taking down a blog that I had worked on for the year and also the collective sadness it could possibly bring.
Some thoughts and reasons......
Blogging is addictive - sometimes you cant just stop and leave it there - because you just cant help but come back to it - ayah!! I'm an all or nothing girl - unfortunately
The whole copyright thing was weighing heavily on me.
I struggled with bringing beauty all the time when there is so much suffering.
My back was killing me!! :-)
Initially I started blogging because I wanted to share the beautiful things I found - then it became about community then finding original material and then technorati ratings and reader numbers and ayah - it all got skewed.
Getting new material means you've always got the blog in the back of your mind - be it when you're on the bus, reading the paper or talking with friends... for me it got a bit ridiculous seriously !! when your 3 year old sees you on the computer and goes MUMMY STOP BLOGGING you know there's something a bit awry.
Also I personally wouldn't want my children to spend the amount of time on the computer that I was spending - so I didn't want to give them that as an example for life.
I think I've seen more nudity/obscenity in the past 12 months than I have in my entire life times 10 from trawling through photographers sites and my heart doesn't want to see any more.....
Opening up yourself on the internet also opens you up for fair game to whoever is out there, no matter what your intentions.
When you spend enough time on something you end up becoming it, and it is not what I want to become.
My cherubs are all the more happier for it. And in the strangest of ways it is amazingly liberating - not that I'm advocating a mass blog deletion!:-) :-) :-). Just wanted to let you know what its like from "the other side"
Its not that I have left you I am still here - just not up front bamboozling you with techni - colours and spelling mistakes:-)
Hugs and love and I'm still here - just recovering from the "loss" - in a good and bad way and working on my photography and printing up a family album with iphoto :-), working on the family blog, pondering the effects of the stock market fallout & wondering what the future will hold, taking my boy out for adventures, reconnecting with God, loving DY Blog consultant extrordinaire ( who I didn't tell for 2 days about the blog deletion bit as he'd bemoan the hours wasted! :-) and trying to get my back back into working order!!
I'll leave the mystery as to who I am as a mystery:-)
PS - hugs especially to you Corine and LOVE THE accompanying images :-) :-) :-) Fear not - I'll be back visiting - I'm still nursing those twinlettes - yes still!! :-)
Hugs bug and take care
Love Felicity XOX
Posted by: all things bright and beautiful October 01, 2008 at 05:15 AM
23 comments:
Thanks for sharing Fifi. I was worried when it came down entirely. Felicity is very brave to have made such a big decision. Her blog, and her voice, will be missed!
i feel better too
I am so glad to know she's okay! She did such a wonderful job of sharing her blogger information with all of us. Too bad...
oh, good to know!
Oh that is a bummer. :-( Sounds like she's at one with her decision, though, and at the end of the day we all need to be happiest with ourselves.
Thanks for sharing this, Mlle. Fifi.
What a way to leave - but I completely understand and can relate. I think it's great she did what was right for her. I've had those same feelings, but also love the blogworld! Congrats to her!
yes, i golf very badly but i try. so far, i have not even utilize the drivers yet b/c i can't seen to master irons.
I felt so down when i saw her blog was deleted. I read Corine's post first and yes i understand perfectly her reasons. But gosh...i'll miss her!
She needed to do this for herself and her family. I had just discovered her blog recently.
Nancy
Lovely painting and tribute to her.
Everyone has to do what is right for them. Kudos to her for doing what she felt she had to do.
I never saw her blog, but I can understand her reasoning. There has to be a time for blogging and then the rest of life should go on. Blogging is usually in the back of my mind, but I find it fun and exciting, and I get bursts of creativity and cool ideas from blogging, so it's definitely a personal thing.
Thanks for posting this Fifi. Glad to hear she is good. Not sure I would do it this way, but completely understand the need to just break free. I too will miss Felicity's blog very much. She was one of the one's that gave me so much inspiration to jump in.
Fifi- so glad you posted this.. I had been wondering and wondering. I'm so glad to hear that all is well and I have to say that's a brave decision. Finding the balance is really hard....
xx Trina
Good news!
Wow,
So that's the whole big story. Sad to hear but understandable. Lovely tribute painting Fifi! We will miss her.
Lisa & Alfe
Fifi, Thanks for letting us know.. I was loving her blog .. but respect her decision.... Love your painting too!
I had been wondering what had happened to Felicity, I missed her postings. Good to know now and glad she's still here in blogland. Daisy~
I can completely relate to hos Felicity is feeling, I often wonder if I should give up blogging. for now im just cutting way back. Im glad she and you decided to share those thoughts,
smiles,
Sandy
Hi Fifi :)
It's a very sad thing to lose a friend that you've met online. I have made a lot of friends that have dissapeared and there's no way of ever hearing from them again. I'm glad you found closure though. Sometimes we never do.
(((hugs)))
rue
Thanks for posting this FiFi.
I will add my that I also will miss Felicity's voice & inspiration. Being a Born Worrier, I was concerned & now understand her thought process - I admire that she did it quickly, rather than let things die out.
All the Best to Friends in the Blogosphere!
Fifi, it was so good to read this post and understand what happened with Felicity! I will miss her blog like everybody here, but I admire her.
Felicity, Be Happy!
thanks for charing...if felicity reed this..I will miss you..I loved your blog..please send a message sometimes..big hug too you and take care..
marie
Oh, my gosh, I'm shocked by this! I had no idea she had deleted her beautiful blog!! It's so hard for me to imagine doing that, but I do understand how it can easily take over your life if you let it.
*sigh* I'm so sad it's gone. -Julia
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